CONVERSATIONS WITH SELF
My career has granted me the gift and privilege of dressing many people, especially women. In this time I have learnt so much about our collective dressing habits – both the self serving and the un-serving. These dressing habits tend to show up in our intimate space between us and our wardrobes: through the language we adorn ourselves in, the limitations we place on ourselves, or the unwritten rules we think we need to dress in accordance with.
I have seen people limit themselves through this habit. And as a result, people often forget their uniqueness. We learn this minimising habit from the world around us – through the media, societal structures, perhaps from those that raised us, or our peers. Sadly, it is also very common in those that are working through trauma, in past or present.
Through acknowledging dressing as a ritual that is a sacred moment with self, I have witnessed members of our community bloom. The work is in observing internal dialogue and reframing as, and when, it feels possible.
The power to feel amazing in clothing long term, is more than just an impeccable garment (although this helps!). The clothing is the final detail in the decoration of self - the words you choose to decorate yourself in are what primarily carries you.
So on that note, what words do you offer to yourself when you are dressing? How do you decorate your body in language? Do you speak to yourself as kindly as you would a loved one? You deserve loving, expansive language.
With loving contemplation,